17. Hate Me Now

For RapReviews.com, Steve Juon said that "Hate Me Now" was the "only truly overpowering song" from I Am...: "It may be yet another mad track about playa hating, but the rebuttal of the hate is crisp and well defined - owing little to cliche."[6] In 2013, Complex ranked the "Hate Me Now" video no. 8 in its "50 Best Rap Videos of the '90s" list.[7]

17. Hate Me Now

As a nonparent but a therapist for many kids, teens, and families, I can easily understand what this teen is going through. I remember it well. I hated my mom, too, and she was a sobbing mess due to my abrupt withdrawal. All I wanted was independence and for her to get off my back. Looking back, I want to kiss my mom for being so annoying. She saved me from so many negative experiences by having rules and expectations, but she also pushed me away by being emotional and reactive to my teen antics.

Same with my 11 (soon to be 12) year old daughter. We fight everyday and sometimes i feel that she hates me to her core. I took away her beloved celphone and despite her attachment to it, she refuses to change her attitude towards me. She woukd rather lose her celph than treat me with respect.The confusing matter is, the change in her did not happen gradually. It happened almost overnight. Like she woke up one morning and decided she hated her family.Most times i stay up late and cry and pray. Its tough. :(

I dont know what to do. My 15 year old son tonight said in a calm tone he hates me and if I died he wouldnt care. This feels like the final straw in a battle I always felt I was losing. As a man I feel defeated and broken. I feel I have lost him. I feel weak for even writing this. I love my son but I feel like he has finnally crossed a line I cannot return from. Ever since my ex wife died of cancer he has changed. I am so angry she died and took my relationship with my son with her. For the first time in my life I feel helpless. I have no idea how to fix this. My younger daughter is doing so well and my fiancee loves him so much, our lives could be so good.

I wrote a comment a about a year ago. Things were miserable in my home. One year later so much has changed for the better. My youngest went away to school and came back a completely different person. She sought out help all on her own. I just have to say what a complete pleasure she is now. For my birthday this year I just asked for everyone to write me a letter about a memory of me. I was blown away with how appreciative the tones in all their letters were. My point is, there is hope. Seriously my kids pretty much hated me, but with my daughter changing the dynamic of the family for the better, well, what a difference. Hang in there!

I am a 14 year old and my dad is being a jerk right now. I am a tomboy and my dad always yells at me that I need to act like my gender. I have fun with my other family members but right when my dad shows up he is so rude. I even stayed in my room for like a week just to get away from him but every time I go hang-out with my real friends he always stops me. I just hate that he is a jerk.

Hi m a 23 year old girl living in a conservative country. I m v beautiful n smart. I was a topper all through my life but still I feel empty. My father is n abusive husband he has aIways dominated me n my mom. My entire childhood n still I feel DT m under a house arrest. My dad has controlled my life entirely. I was never allowed to go out or even talk to my guy cousins or make male friends. I was not allowed to even look at boys directly. I never made friends n dun believe in friendship cz everybody has hated my guts I was v pretty n intelligent n won every competition of drawing studies painting or beauty etc. Which was y everyone hated me as I was perfect. Many guys now want me BT I was in 2 relationships n mind it dese r basically d only guys I hv talked to n befriended. Both of them dominated me again. They dun allow me to make friends, extremely possessive n jealous. I m marrying one if them. My dad hates me cz I crossed d line BT accepted my bf cz he is from a v good family. So u can c d contradictions. Despite being perfect m feeling d same as above people. I hate my life n myself. I have tried to commit suicide twice. I dunno what I wanna do in my life. Whatever career m pursuing its cz of d burden of being perfect. Its really boring. I always feel out of place n lonely. I think I m different n awkward. I think like a loser always as I never take compliments seriously though I hv been always getting them cz I think I dun deserve them. My bf whom I m supposed to get married to next year is a party animal n outgoing. I on d other hand m n introvert n very emotional. I dun drink or smoke hv always followed every god damn rule in my life. Everybody thinks I m boring n belong to 19 the century. I recently failed in d toughest exam of my country. M completely destroyed n I need help. Cannot go to a doctor cz I dun hv money. Plz help me.

Im 20 years old im a girl thats why i have been kept in house for years no school no college n now i am getting married i always feel that i am not perfect i hate everyone in my life i just for once want to live like other people i have been home.school but for once i would like to have class mates wana go out now i just never get happy i beat myself n cry all the time i just dont know how to be happy

I hate myself when i saw my mother, because the longer i being at home, the more i realised that i have her character. My mother is a self centered woman who wanted to be loved and need attention all the time. Everyday I hear her nagging all the time, about how her body is not well, ask my father to massage her, about how much house work she should do everyday, and the worst is when she asked me why i am always looked sad when i am around her.

I know what you mean. But I found the worst things that leave my mouth are almost always the worst ways I feel about myself. I criticise others for the things I hate in myself or when I hate myself. And I hate myself some more for doing so.

The real YOU lies beyond all of that.. the real YOU is fresh, right now. Ready to create the NEW you, whatever you decide that to be. You find LOVE sitting in silence with yourself. Without identification with the story of your past that ended up creating your false self.

I hate myself because how i am if you wonder why its because im ugly and have depression bipolar and anger issues im in grade 7 and i just got myself ground for 2 months yesterday because im a idiot and started a fist fight and every time i get grounded i feel like an even bigger idiot and more useless to the world

Please do not be so self-critical Lauren. I know I am just a stranger who stumbled upon your comment, but I truly care about you. You are so young, and to be thinking all of these hateful thoughts regarding your body is so upsetting. You do not deserve to feel this way. I am so sorry people treat you cruelly just because of your appearance. I am sure you have a beautiful soul, and I am sure that will eventually shine through to people. You really do deserve so much better.Remember: You are still very young. You have your whole life ahead of you. Take little steps each day to boost your self-confidence. For instance, try to notice some of the amazing aspects of who you are. Things will get better, I promise.Sincerely,Sydney

I went to see the movie a second time, because my first response, while immediate and obvious, left me feeling unsatisfied. I knew I could plow into the movie and spare not a single frame, using implacable logic and withering sarcasm. But some seed of subversion in the film made that feel too easy. Whatever its faults, the movie had engaged and fascinated me in its various parts, even if it seemed to have no whole.

I don't know what to do. I have a 15yr old daughter that has completely changed our household with her anger. She can be so sweet, loving and funny....but it lasts a few days and then she blows up. Not just screaming and yelling, but threatening to hit/beat up her 9yr old brother. She screams how she hates him and how she wishes he wasn't there. She gets so angry she is shaking/crying.

Down the long lane of the history yet to be written America knows that this world of ours, ever growing smaller, must avoid becoming a community of dreadful fear and hate, and be, instead, a proud confederation of mutual trust and respect.

I have (mistakenly) tried to exert some form of authority and boundary setting. This has resulted in major issues between MOM and I (and Egg and I obviously). Her mother is exhausted from dealing with Egg on her own in every sense for the last 14 years. Eggs father does not have a parenting bione in his body and is more interested in whatever takes the least effort on his part (letting her do as she pleases).

If you are a born again Christian who is following God, give the matter to him. Be led by the Spirit in what to do. My kids still hate me 30 years later. My daughter is calling me crazy, something her dad used to do to me. He was abusive in all ways to me; I left him due to that and his drugs and affairs.

I would like to thank you for writing the article. I was a living full time mother up until my oldest turned 16 at that point he left, telling me he loved me but wanted to live with his dad, the next time I sore him he had so much hate and anger towards me he shook the whole time he was in my presence, I sore him once more, he was 6foot 2 and 19 years old where he violently attacked me because I tried to talk with him. My youngest left 2 days before a massive spinal operation I was due to have 2nd March 2020 and I sore him twice after that where again he was full of blame, hate and aggression. I want to say to anyone who thinks they can do something, in my opinion the only thing you can do is let them go, they are suffering and as a mother I had to let them go because anything else would cause the distress. It took great strength understanding, compassion and courage. I send them gifts, cards, money and stand in the shadows. 041b061a72